Self-love or 
Appreciation of who you are.

The relationship with oneself is often disturbed and thus prevents a fulfilling life. 
A negative self-image, i.e. self-deprecation, easily leads to overexposure and thus to a negative way of looking at one's own life and/or even the whole world. 
Depression is then a frequently observed consequence of such a development.
Others then punish themselves by renunciation or even self-sacrifice, a strategy of self-sabotage, and thus miss out on the joys and love of life,

Through imprints in childhood and adolescence, by parents. Teachers and environment, the self-image is formed and parallel to this, the relationship with oneself develops.

However, the responsibility for this does not lie on the outside, even if one likes to blame a bad childhood and upbringing.
Unreflectively adopted beliefs can be checked at the latest in adulthood and replaced if necessary. 

Condemnations or even condemnations by others only say something about the self-image of others and their standards, but nothing about oneself. 
Even insults only affect us if they have a true core in ourselves. It hits us what hits us. 
Our fellow men mirror us, as we mirror them. They are thought-provoking impulses, .......... how we deal with them is our choice!

Self-deprecation, self-sabotage prevent us from self-love. 
All obstacles are strategies of fear. However, this can only have its effect on attitudes and decisions towards and for life if there is a lack of love.
Lack of love, especially self-love, is then often the cause of " suffering " in life .

Self-love is the prerequisite to be able to love others and others and thus lead to a positive, friendly and open-minded view of life. 
Everything that we do not love or appreciate about ourselves, we project onto others.

These are our "shadows" that we want to hide from others at all costs. 
We recognize these shadows best by what we find fault with others. It is usually exactly what we do not allow ourselves, what we cannot forgive ourselves. We project our supposed "faults" onto others, we see them there because we don't want to see them in ourselves. Often enough, these are assumptions or even insinuations that have no basis in fact.

This is the starting point for more self-love. If we uncover our shadows - the unloved parts of ourselves - recognize the causes for them, and are able to throw the old beliefs about ourselves overboard and accept ourselves as we are, then we work on our self-love. When we can do that, our perspective towards others changes as well.

We can then forgive them , accept them as they are, aware that we ourselves and also all others are just variations of the whole, not better and not worse, just different.

This awareness requires a decision against the automaticity of our human mind. This is where - as I see it - the soul "comes into play". Mind, as perfect as it seems to be to us, is nevertheless limited.

A few sentences to the mind ! 

The mind is the tool of duality.
For this it is extremely useful. It works like a computer, can compare at lightning speed and evaluate ...... better or worse.
This happens for the most part unconsciously.

This is how our body works and stays alive.

However, its standards and comparison possibilities are based on experiences, which in turn have only been evaluated on the basis of previous experiences.
These are often not our own experiences, but the equally adopted experiences of our parents , fellow human beings and society in general , which we find and adopt in secular laws and rules but also in our religions. 
We believe them as if they were the truth.

They correspond to the rules in the program of a computer.

The mind, our rational thinking ability, does not know feelings.
It is only able to rationally interpret the feelings it receives through its sensors.

The mind filters and sorts our perceptions fully automatically.
Only a fraction of its insights penetrates our consciousness. We see only the small section on which it focuses, based on our willful thoughts. If we observe our thoughts, we can decide whether we want to hold on to them or let them go. In this way, we are in control of our lives and not the automatic system of the mind, which so often presents us with a jumble of thoughts and does not allow us to rest.

The mind dominates our self-image It is responsible for our "false" self-image, but only if we allow it. 
We as a soul can decide if and when we let our behavior be decided by the mind from the subconscious or by our real self.
It is a volitional decision.

The "cooperation" with the unlimited soul often confuses the mind, which is programmed for life support. This manifests itself in inner struggles with effects on the psyche when we do not clearly decide who " has the SAY " . THIS must be practiced !

The mind "knows" only the ego-consciousness, or as I call it " the false personality."

It can certainly process enormous amounts of data, instinctively and spontaneously control the body in case of danger or give recommendations for action in our thoughts, but we, as soul, can decide if and when we want to follow it or not.

Bang ! Close the door !

The mind is not creative. The creative power has its source in ALL - WHAT - IS , of which we are a fragment. We are co-creators of our reality. When we discover our soul consciousness, we have woken up from the state of sleepwalking to which our mind always wants to tempt us with the help of its beliefs.

Man, in the consciousness of the soul, is able to ignore the thoughts of the mind and replace them with thoughts of the heart. 
"I may have fear that wants to hinder me, but I choose love and I am free."

Self-love needs precisely this willful decision to have its effect.

The clutter of our mind, the self-doubt and fears of not being good enough...... created by its constant, automatic comparisons, lead either to devaluation or also to an elevation not only of our self-image but .... ..... also our image of others. 
What we then feel as effects are fear..... Hate.... Resistance........ Struggle and confrontation.

Whether professor or unskilled worker..... Child or grandma/grandpa .....Man or woman, , yes even human or animal,............ we are ALL from the same origin and all here to experience.

Self-love is appreciation, respect, goodwill and recognition towards oneself, regardless of ego, no matter where one stands and what one wants to achieve.

Some things don't work out right away. 
However, we can always approach it anew. 
There is no reason for own devaluation or self-punishment. Reward for what we have already achieved is a sign of self-love and appreciation. 
The comparison with oneself, how have I developed in the course of my time on earth, is the only meaningful comparison.
We are here, make the most different experiences and learn from it. Every experience counts, so let's be lenient with ourselves if we come to some insights late in life.

With self-love, we do not judge ourselves according to any criteria, but see the whole picture, beyond the body.
With this awareness we meet ourselves and also all others at eye level.

" I greet you , I see you . You are OK and I am OK " is the nonverbal greeting between two souls.
An inner smile, which then also shows itself on the outside, supports this message. 
A hand extended or a hug are another, physical expression of the soul connection. 
This consciousness also develops in the body, if we allow it. 
This is how it works.

It is our choice! 
(Text Sigrid)